Depression: The Problem of the Bed
Warm Hug for today: You are
special. You are stronger than you think.
Dearest Friend,
Years ago I read a book about grieving the loss of a spouse.
One of the chapters was entitled, What to
do About the Bed. The subject is hugely important for people with
depression. The bed is a real problem, I think we all agree; but let’s explore the
topic in a different context.
If you are over forty, you may remember the protest for
peace that John Lennon and Yoko Ono staged from their bed. Only they could have
the chutzpah to make a worldwide activist statement from the one place where usually
we find private and personal refuge!
The bed event worked for John and Yoko for several
reasons. The obvious reasons, of course,
were that whatever those two got up to was a world event, and second they were
in the bed together. You see, there were two
human beings in that bed...beings who were always there to support each
other...always there to discuss whatever project they were working on...always
there to cuddle and to give and receive love.
Many people don’t share the special bond that they rejoiced in. Even
fewer have anyone to share themselves with in a lasting and intimate way. You are
the ones that this article addresses. If you are depressed and alone in the
bed...get out of it!
The lie is that
your cozy bed is a safe place...a place to rest...to get it together. If you
are depressed, start looking at your bed as a utilitarian space for 8-10 hours
of daily sleep. Keep out of it...you are
hurting yourself to be there. Note:
If you have lost a spouse, take some time; think about whether or not sleeping
in the same bed is really a good
thing for you. Be smart...you may need
to change your sleeping arrangements. It’s okay to move on. Your partner would
want that.
Wisdom: Get out of
the bed!
Now that you have bitten the bullet, heaved a heavy sigh and
looked at the problem of the bed; let’s
talk about what you can do about it.
Following is a list of other things to do besides be in bed.
This is not a bucket list. Try to keep moving. The old tired saying might just
apply: Fake it ‘til you make it!
- · Get showered, put on real clothes
- · Go to the cosmetics counter at the mall and try all the samples
- · Take a stroll. Even a slow walk gets your endorphins going!
- · Keep Bible Scripture cards or a Praise volume with you all the time. Read them throughout the day, keep some by “The Bed.”
- · Go to one of your safe places. I know you have them...places where you feel happy and secure
- · Take an easy class...even if it’s underwater basket weaving, it gets you out among the living
- · Adopt a cat. Cats are great pets for depressed people. They are loving and low maintenance
- · Start a planter...pick bright colors
- · Go to church. It’s a great way to meet people and build emotional support
- · Serve lunch at a Help Center
- · Paint your nails, paint the dog’s nails!
- · Hit a tennis ball against your garage
- · Wash your car/wash anything...there’s satisfaction in seeing dirt come off!
- · Read a children’s story. Read a favorite with lots of pictures
- · Start a journal about the good things in life
- · Go to a music event. My community has a dulcimer group.
You get the idea here.
Enter the world. Stay away from the bed. Go through the motions if you
have to until you get to a good place.
Remember the Disney movie, Finding
Nemo? Be like Dory, just keep swimming!
Say Aloud (People
believe what they hear themselves say): I will
be better, stronger, whole...God loves me...I have a purpose in life!
“But let all who take refuge in you be glad; let them ever
sing for joy. Spread your protection over them, that those who love your name
may rejoice in you. Surely, Lord, you bless the righteous; you surround them
with your favor as with a shield” (Psalm 5:11-12 NIV).
I pray today that God’s love surrounds
and protects you as with a shield!
hahaha so true! I've had to have people literally drag me out of bed...
ReplyDeleteGreat! You have people who love you!
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